另一半認為, 7:00下班是不顧家庭 - 工程師
By Emma
at 2017-03-18T15:18
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推文一堆表示7點下班是常態、千萬不要放生之類,
是不是有哪裡誤會了。
太RD思考。
聽女生講話只看字面意思,會GG der
你知、我知、龍五也知科技業只有更晚、沒有最晚,
不去marriage板卻來這板po文找同溫層....
絕對一面倒的挺你 XD
但現實是,即使全ptt 十萬人都說七點不算晚,
只要您老婆說晚,那就是晚。
您心裡可能這樣煩著:
「都七點『就』下班了,還被嫌太晚不顧家,真他媽憋屈。」
一點淺見給您參考:
先不要自己跳進老婆字句表面上的意思:
看起來她是在指責原po太晚下班,
但爭執字面,根本完全沒意義。
想想話語背後的更多可能性:
有沒有想過:
老婆是在表達想你
老婆有未知的疾病而使得做家事變成很大負擔
老婆想要你一起在家,有更多的兩人相處時間
老婆交惹壞朋友在那炫耀老公早下班又有錢
等等
與其爭執1900下班是否代表不顧家,
不如想想老婆為什麼這麼說。
找個輕鬆的時段,
跟老婆兩個人到外面走走、喝個她喜歡的下午茶,
誠懇的聊一下:
老婆抱歉,我讓你感受不好,
讓你覺得我不顧家,
你可以告訴我我們怎麼做會比較好?
找出話語背後的真正心理因素,才是正解。
如果老婆只是想跟你相處多一點時間
卻拉不下臉撒嬌才用這種方式表達,那很好解決XD
如果老婆做的家事都一樣多,
但近期卻莫名的體力無法負荷,
你們還是趕快去做全套健檢,要快。
如果老婆是心理方面有難以言說的東西,
現在這個不顧家的藉口就不會是最後一次鬧,
請跟老婆深入談談、或尋求進一步的專業諮商。
成人很多看似無理的行為,是來自孩提時代的陰影。
如果她交了一些八婆壞朋友就...解決壞朋友XD
結論
不要拘泥於話語字面的意思。
先關心老婆,而不是問對錯(不必爭七點下班揪~竟~算不算顧家)。
祝原po順利。
※ 引述《AK47shoot (AK47)》之銘言:
: 標題: [請益] 另一半認為, 7:00下班是不顧家庭
: 時間: Sat Mar 18 00:53:19 2017
:
: 我是研發工程師,我也不喜歡加班,
: 但,專案在趕的時候,不得不加班。
:
: 另一半是做行政, 每天準時上下班,她無法接受我7:00下班, 她認為晚上7:00下班就是不
: 顧家庭,然後一直吵架,吵到半夜3點。
:
: 我說 "那我不要當RD,月薪少15000,每天準時下班,可以嗎",另一半又說不行,然後又是
: 吵到半夜3點
:
: 請教各位工程師, 晚上超過7:00下班的人,就是不顧家庭嗎??
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