該在台灣爽還是去美國拼一發? - 轉職
By Charlie
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提供妻子側的看法
先恭喜大大拿到offer。我只在台灣當社畜幾年,最近剛好在美國工作的年資跟在台灣的經歷差不多長,分享一些個人的經驗給你參考看看。
1、身分、身分、身分
在美國拿工簽薪水就是比綠卡公民低,因為公司知道你跑不掉。我認識一個朋友,拿到綠卡那天,公司加薪50%留人。如果你打算長期在美國發展,為了你的薪資談判空間、工作選擇機會、還有家庭婚姻和諧,必須努力拿到綠卡。前兩個原因很好理解,最後一個是為了讓你的妻子也能獲得在美國工作的機會。
2、這份工作只是一個起點
你們一家三口來到美國,是從原本舒服的環境裡連根拔起,一頭栽進陌生的水土。就像是重新長出手腳一樣,你們要在異國建立新的生活圈、人際圈,還有社會支持網,這是必經的階段。第一年很可能你為了適應工作,忙得焦頭爛額。而從職場轉成家庭主婦的太太,也要面對生活重心的大轉折。兩個人都要清楚的知道,這個過程是必經而不容易,彼此需要互相加油、共同努力面對。
版上神人眾多,我單從妻子的角度出發。第一年來美國,因為身分不能工作,我只能在家蹲。但是人必須要走出去,只在家裡或繞著孩子打轉,對第一代移民而言,很難跟當地社會連結。妳沒有朋友、就沒有歸屬感,也不知道資源在哪裡。連生病要去看什麼醫生,還要在yelp 上頭貨比三家,再一家一家打電話,問收不收新病患。
我當時參加美國人的教會,每週的國際夫妻聚會,簡直是我的救命繩索。就算我老公不去,我自己不太會開車,也要開去別的夫妻家聚餐聚會。雖然我是唯一的亞洲人,但因爲參加的夫妻,也都至少有一個人是外國人,彼此都很能理解新移民在當地適應的困難,我們就是彼此的幫助。舉凡去哪裡買菜、哪家餐廳好、哪裡有好玩的、小孩的學校、醫療,妳至少有住當地的朋友們可以問。
3、來美國就是要走出去
等到我拿到身分可以工作後,從兼職時薪工開始,我拼命的工作,也抓到轉職全職的機會。一直到在美國開始工作以後,我的體重才從人生的最低點(來美國),慢慢來到健康的體重。
我給自己設定目標,即便第一年不能工作,我也要搞懂美國報稅跟稅制,來幫我老公。第二年開始工作,就努力研究醫療保險跟退休金規則。美國有美國的玩法,既然來了,就全力以對,搞懂制度規則。夫妻兩人之間,至少要有一個人知道規則是什麼。
新移民家庭在異國,你們每一個都在各自的位置上戰鬥,沒有人是輕鬆的,但努力的累積都會是生命養分的積累。不管最後是不是留在美國,還是回到台灣,或者到另一個國家,總歸都不會是白白浪費的。祝福你們
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先恭喜大大拿到offer。我只在台灣當社畜幾年,最近剛好在美國工作的年資跟在台灣的經歷差不多長,分享一些個人的經驗給你參考看看。
1、身分、身分、身分
在美國拿工簽薪水就是比綠卡公民低,因為公司知道你跑不掉。我認識一個朋友,拿到綠卡那天,公司加薪50%留人。如果你打算長期在美國發展,為了你的薪資談判空間、工作選擇機會、還有家庭婚姻和諧,必須努力拿到綠卡。前兩個原因很好理解,最後一個是為了讓你的妻子也能獲得在美國工作的機會。
2、這份工作只是一個起點
你們一家三口來到美國,是從原本舒服的環境裡連根拔起,一頭栽進陌生的水土。就像是重新長出手腳一樣,你們要在異國建立新的生活圈、人際圈,還有社會支持網,這是必經的階段。第一年很可能你為了適應工作,忙得焦頭爛額。而從職場轉成家庭主婦的太太,也要面對生活重心的大轉折。兩個人都要清楚的知道,這個過程是必經而不容易,彼此需要互相加油、共同努力面對。
版上神人眾多,我單從妻子的角度出發。第一年來美國,因為身分不能工作,我只能在家蹲。但是人必須要走出去,只在家裡或繞著孩子打轉,對第一代移民而言,很難跟當地社會連結。妳沒有朋友、就沒有歸屬感,也不知道資源在哪裡。連生病要去看什麼醫生,還要在yelp 上頭貨比三家,再一家一家打電話,問收不收新病患。
我當時參加美國人的教會,每週的國際夫妻聚會,簡直是我的救命繩索。就算我老公不去,我自己不太會開車,也要開去別的夫妻家聚餐聚會。雖然我是唯一的亞洲人,但因爲參加的夫妻,也都至少有一個人是外國人,彼此都很能理解新移民在當地適應的困難,我們就是彼此的幫助。舉凡去哪裡買菜、哪家餐廳好、哪裡有好玩的、小孩的學校、醫療,妳至少有住當地的朋友們可以問。
3、來美國就是要走出去
等到我拿到身分可以工作後,從兼職時薪工開始,我拼命的工作,也抓到轉職全職的機會。一直到在美國開始工作以後,我的體重才從人生的最低點(來美國),慢慢來到健康的體重。
我給自己設定目標,即便第一年不能工作,我也要搞懂美國報稅跟稅制,來幫我老公。第二年開始工作,就努力研究醫療保險跟退休金規則。美國有美國的玩法,既然來了,就全力以對,搞懂制度規則。夫妻兩人之間,至少要有一個人知道規則是什麼。
新移民家庭在異國,你們每一個都在各自的位置上戰鬥,沒有人是輕鬆的,但努力的累積都會是生命養分的積累。不管最後是不是留在美國,還是回到台灣,或者到另一個國家,總歸都不會是白白浪費的。祝福你們
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